Married couple keeping it real from teen days

Dear Pastor,

I have been reading your column from I was a teenager, and to this day, I enjoy doing so. My husband and I sometimes read it to each other.

This man and I were childhood sweethearts. We knew each other from we were in high school.

When he gets miserable, I would tell him that he is fortunate to have me because I could have married somebody else who has money. And he would tell me that it is true, but I wouldn't be as happy as I am today.

We have two children, a boy and a girl. They are adults now and they are on their own. One of them has given us a grandchild.

My husband is a loving man, but he gets miserable when he can't have his way. Sometimes I ask him if he loves his people more than he loves me and he tells me he can always find another woman, but not another wife because I am to him the perfect wife.

I know that I am not perfect, but I am loyal to him. Sometimes he takes a long while to get hard; you know what I mean. But I give him nutritious juices and pamper him a lot.

Sometimes when I go to church, my church sisters always ask me how come my husband is looking so well and I tell them all the time that I have what it takes to make him happy and it is not what they are thinking.

My husband is a good saver and he has put my name on his bank account from the time we got married. He used to also go on farm work and he would send home all his money.

He loves his children. We do not have to depend on them for anything. Our house is paid for and we are trying to build another house on a piece of land that my grandfather gave to us. That house will help us in our old age.

I am sure my husband would be glad to see, in THE STAR, the good things I have said about him.

M.A.

Dear M.A.,

I always enjoy reading letters from folks who have been married for a long time and still enjoying their union. It seems to me that the relationship you have had with your spouse has gotten deeper. And both of you have fun sharing everything together.

Some readers might want to know the type of juices you give to your husband to make him strong. There are so many things on the market these days, and sometimes I question whether these things have any use.

Some years ago, I went visiting differ ent homes in the community and a woman invited me to look at something behind her house. She showed me a big pot, and when she opened it, I saw lots of what appears to be wood. She said she was boiling them for her husband. She was endeavouring to make his back strong.

So I asked her if these things really work and she said "yes, Pastor, I boil it and strain it and I put it in the refrigerator and I give to my husband, a glass of it every day. And it makes him strong and he performs well."

Some women love to give the men "fish tea" and they avoid putting too much salt in the fish tea.

Madam, thank you for writing. Continue to take good care of each other.

Pastor