Should I marry this man?

Dear Pastor,

I am facing a problem and I need your advice. About 10 years ago, I was having a relationship with a man. But, he had a girlfriend in the US.

He went away and got married to her. I quarrelled with him because when we met, he told me that he loved me more than this other woman.

Suddenly, he said he had to go. So I told him to go ahead.

He was never happy with the woman because her children and he didn't get along. He couldn't tell them anything when they were around.

He said her oldest son would always say that he couldn't talk to them because he was not their father.

Many times he went to bed hungry because he never had money to buy food in restaurants. He came to Jamaica to visit and was staying with his mother.

He became ill and his mother tried to take care of him, but she did higglering so she had to ask different people to help her.

She called me and I took him to my house, and that caused me to break up with my boyfriend. My boyfriend said that he couldn't stay with me.

I told him that me and the guy were not having sex. He said it did not matter to him. So we broke up.

NURSED BACK TO HEALTH

This man became very skinny, but I nursed him until he was better. He told his wife everything. He told her that he was with me, but nothing was going on because I had a man.

She never came to Jamaica to visit him. When he went back, he found out that a man had moved in with her and when he questioned why, she said that he should not question her because he moved into a woman's house.

They are now divorced and he had to leave the house. He is asking me to marry him, but some people say that it was risky because he was married before.

Pastor, I love this man. I love him more than the man I was living with. But, I am asking you for your advice.

Is it wrong to marry this man who is now divorced? He is waiting on me for an answer. He would like us to get married in February.

G.D.

Dear G.D,

I am glad that you were able to help this man. You nursed him while he was ill. His mother did her best to assist him, but she knew that you would have done a better job, so she called on you.

Your boyfriend did not like that at all, and I could understand how he felt.

Now, you are without a man in your life, except that this man who was sick is now interested in marrying you.

Evidently, the love for you has grown and it could be also that he wishes to show gratitude to you.

But I believe he genuinely loves you. So, without hesitation, I suggest that you accept his proposal and marry him.

The children of the other woman did not respect this man, and I doubt very much that this woman had loved him during the entire year that he was ill.

Never once did she come to visit him. She didn't care about him. So, I repeat, marry the man. I wish the both of you well.

Pastor