I got her best friend pregnant

Dear Pastor,

I am 31 years old, and I have two children with two different women. I am deeply in love with the mother of my first child, but she ran me out of her life when she found out that I had sex with her best friend and had got her pregnant. She would not accept that it was just one of those things that happened suddenly.

I knew that her best friend loved me, and she used to always tell me how nice I was and that she wished that I was her man, because her boyfriend was not nice to her. Sometimes when she was broke, I would give her money, but with no strings attached.

One day, I went to the best friend's house to collect my baby. The baby was sleeping. I asked her for a cup of tea. My girlfriend was still at work. I gave her $2,000 for keeping the baby. I saw the way she was staring at me, and I asked her what the problem was. She said that I was ignoring her and that I knew that she loved me. We held each other and started to kiss, and I don't know what happened, but we ended up on the couch. We had sex, and I got her pregnant.

When she told me that she was pregnant, I was confused. She said that we could get around it by giving the child to her boyfriend. I agreed. The only problem with that was that her boyfriend is of light complexion, and I am dark-skinned. When the child was born, the child did not resemble him, and he told her that he was not going to accept that child although his name was put on the birth certificate. She eventually told him the truth, and he told my first child's mother. I had to confess to her that I had fathered the child and that her best friend and I had been trying to cover up the truth.

She stopped sleeping with me and told me that she was going to punish me in different ways. She said that one way she would punish me was by having sex with one of my friends. I got down on my knees and begged her to forgive me. She broke off her friendship with the girl.

So this girl who has my second child, has lost her man, and I have lost my first child's mother. But I have not given up. I have to be supporting the other girl, and I don't like it. I am having sex with her because the guy has left her and I am not getting sex from the other girl I really love, but I don't want two women. It is too costly. I can't handle the situation.

I am paying a mortgage and a car loan. Sometimes I am so confused. My mother told me to be careful. She is afraid I will go crazy. I can't imagine my girl having sex with another man. I am begging you, please, to meet with us and counsellor us. I will do anything for her to take me back.

T.W.

Dear T.W,

I can promise that I will meet with you and your first child's mother. I cannot say that I will beg this lady to take you back as her lover and perhaps marry you. You have made a big mistake. I am tempted to say that you have made a fool of yourself and that you made matters worse by encouraging the other young woman to give the child or to say that the child she was carrying was her boyfriend's. And to save your relationship, she lied. But it was more than that. She lied because she could get money from you. And she lied because she is not a good woman.

You say that this woman and you fooled around when you when to pick up your child, but the two of you are continuing to have sex. Evidently, this woman is happy to see you and the mother of your first child break up because she wants you. You say that you don't want her, so why are you having sex with her and giving her the impression that she is special in your life? And at the same time, you are trying your best to be reconciled with the other woman.

Try your best to support both children, but bring an end to the sexual relationship you are having with the second woman. And always remember that it can be very difficult to rebuild trust. Your first child's mother will have a very difficult time trusting you, but if both of you wish to see me, I will gladly meet with you in the latter part of January 2020. Call my office 876-929-1667 and make the appointment.

Pastor